THE MOMENTS

Samuel E. Gladding_Professor of counseling psychology

 

” I think that while feelings may draw us toward a partner, shared experiences keep us with that person. The reason is that romantic love is mainly in our heads and based on fantasy. It lasts about 24 months. On the other hand, memories based on experiences last a lifetime. If I am doing something with my partner, especially if it is pleasurable, when I remember it I will feel good about what happened and be reinforced to interact with that person again. Thus, playing together can lead to staying together.”

Samuel T. Gladding, professor of counseling psychology

 

THE MOMENTS

 

Be careful

about the moments

the bad, but the lasting moments

lasting sometimes for a whole life

in your careless act of not dealing with them.

 

Be careful

about the moments

the good and lasting moments

lasting always for a whole life

even your attempts to make them

will last for a whole life.

 

Be careful

about the moments

in those we are alive

in those we fall in love

in those we get hurt

in those we are alone

in those we pass away

 

Be careful

about the moments

the bad, but lasting moments

the good, and lasting moments

 

Be careful

about the moments.

 

From: ”Shadows, collection of poems”, 2008, SERP / ISBN 978-91-977393-1-3

Samuel E. Rajeus, P. 131