” I think that while feelings may draw us toward a partner, shared experiences keep us with that person. The reason is that romantic love is mainly in our heads and based on fantasy. It lasts about 24 months. On the other hand, memories based on experiences last a lifetime. If I am doing something with my partner, especially if it is pleasurable, when I remember it I will feel good about what happened and be reinforced to interact with that person again. Thus, playing together can lead to staying together.”
Samuel T. Gladding, professor of counseling psychology
THE MOMENTS
Be careful
about the moments
the bad, but the lasting moments
lasting sometimes for a whole life
in your careless act of not dealing with them.
Be careful
about the moments
the good and lasting moments
lasting always for a whole life
even your attempts to make them
will last for a whole life.
Be careful
about the moments
in those we are alive
in those we fall in love
in those we get hurt
in those we are alone
in those we pass away
Be careful
about the moments
the bad, but lasting moments
the good, and lasting moments
Be careful
about the moments.
From: ”Shadows, collection of poems”, 2008, SERP / ISBN 978-91-977393-1-3
Samuel E. Rajeus, P. 131